My Apadravya is hiding!

Tuesday June 17th, 2008 @ 8:20 PM

Filed under: Male Genital

I’ve had a 10 gauge apadravya for about 4 years now, and it’s been healed up with pretty much no problems (on my end) since about 4 or 5 months in. I have replaced the bar going through this piercing with shorter bars three times now (the first two were in an effort to make this piercing a bit more comfortable for my partner) and have never had a problem until a few months ago when I downsized the bar for the last time in an effort to stop some leakage I was experiencing when urinating.

In the past when downsizing, my anatomy accommodated the shorter bar by allowing the balls on the ends to sit further into my glans, and after this last downsize both balls pretty much sat about half-way into the skin, until I would get an erection and the bottom ball would kind of pop under the skin, not into the urethra, but just under the skin - it was a little uncomfortable to pop out, but it came out just fine and I didn’t think much of it. At some point I started getting less vigilant about popping the bottom ball out, and when I did it got harder and harder to do until I just couldn’t pop it out anymore.

Now I have an apadravya where the top ball sits just where it ought to, but the bottom ball is harder to find. The hole in the bottom of my glans is about one third the diameter of the ball and you can see it if you push down on the top of the piercing, but it won’t ever pop out. I’ve even acquired some emla cream and numbed the area so that pain is no longer a factor when trying to get the ball to pop out, but I still can’t force it out!

What should I do?! the piercer did this for me is long gone and I don’t really want to go to the other piercers in my area. Should I suck it up and get a scalpel? Is there something I haven’t tried? Help me please!


I’d say that your only option is to have it incised. If you are not a fan of the other local piercers then do some research and travel to a trusted practitioner. We are talking about your old fella here - you don’t really want to be taking uneccessary risks!

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nipple piercing

Tuesday June 17th, 2008 @ 9:40 AM

Filed under: Nipple

I had my nipples pierced for about four years now. Last month, I had a pimple looking thing by the hole of one of the piercings (I have straight barbells). It cleared after soaking it in sea salt. Recently, I’ve been getting more pimple looking bumps under my nipple and near the holes. Also, the tips of my nipples are covered in a yellow green dry scab looking thing. There is also always dried blood and pus around the holes. I never had a problem until recently. My nipples have went through biting, pulling, pinching, you name it, and nothing ever bothered them. Now, I dont do anything to them and they’re becoming a mess. I don’t know what I can do. I’d hate to take the jewelry out, but I don’t know if I have an infection or what?

You stated that you haven’t done anything to them and that they were well healed. As it is affecting both piercings I’m inclined to think that this is something systemic and that your acting up nipple piercings are indicative of something else going on here. Green is never a good colour for discharge. I would suggest leaving the jewellery in situ for now seeking the advice of your doctor.

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Blow out.

Tuesday June 17th, 2008 @ 3:08 AM

Filed under: Ear

Which oil is that you use to massage the blow out, so that it may retract into the body?

And is reducing the size to 3mm enough?

There’s many oils that work for people, all depending on their body and how it reacts to the oil. You can try Neem oil, Jojoba Oil, even Emu Oil has been known to help people.

Essentially with blow outs you will want to completely remove the jewelry and massage the lobes with one of said oils to use. From there you will need to wait for the blow out to be re-absorbed into the lobe and then put whatever jewelry fits comfortably and easily into the piercing. Then wait 1-2 years before actively attempting to stretch that piercing to a larger gauge size.

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Navel Piercing - Trouble inserting jewelry

Tuesday June 17th, 2008 @ 3:05 AM

Filed under: Navel

I can’t get my jewelry back in…. I had surgery 6 weeks ago and the ring has been out since then.. it’s an 8 year old piering. I know the hole isn’t closed, due to being able to get a regular earring in and I’ve been trying to ‘work’ and ’stretch’ the hole but it doesn’t seem to help. I’ve worn a 14 guage ring since it was originally pierced, should I try a 16? Any other suggestions?


This does tend to happen when people go in for surgery and leave their jewelry out, even after 8 years of having the piercing.

What you most likely need to do is bring your jewelry to a piercing studio and have them taper the pierced pathway to a 14ga. Basically they will simply lube the 14ga insertion taper up and slide it through properly so not to cause too much trauma to the body, and then follow through with the jewelry.

This is a much safer/easier way of jewelry insertion, instead of trying to cram a piece of dry jewelry through a dry fistula.

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Lobe Stretching

Monday June 16th, 2008 @ 11:44 AM

Filed under: Ear

ok i had gauged my ears to 5/8 inch the right ear does fine and the left i dono whats wrong with it but it didnt wanna go so after hours of messing with it i finally got it and this wee lil piece of skin came out of my ear not like a blow out or anything but like just a piece of skin and this white stuff would come out of my lobe like around the plug so i switched from wood to opals and it cleared up and was fine but when i took out my plugs i noticed a purple mark inside the lobe so i thought maybe it was just a bit of bruising or something and went up to 3/4s inch didnt have to use a taper or anything just a bit of vitamin E oil and they went right in and now the lobe is doing the same thing again… is there any way to like get that to go away?

Try stretching properly from the get-go. Prevention is better than cure and let’s face it, knarly, chewed-up stretched lobes do not look attractive. There is a wealth of information on the internet and on BME on how to stretch correctly. Also organics are not meant to be used in fresh stretches due to their porous nature and ability to harbour bacteria, which can become an issue if you damage your lobe during the process. As in your case.

By rushing the process and damaging your lobes all you will gain is a thinned out lobe with a poor blood supply and a build up of scar tissue. It will look unsightly, hinder any future stretching and could even lead to necrosis and subsequent splitting. Not nice, eh?

For immediate treatment, remove the jewellery and wait until your earlobes have calmed down before commencing stretching at a size whereby the jewellery pops in comfortably and massage your vitamin E oil into the lobe to soften it and stimulate the blood supply in the meantime. Whilst you are waiting for your lobes to rectify themselves, do a little research so that you might stretch safely next time.

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Posted by Tiff Badhairdo | Permalink | 6 Comments

Gut disease…

Monday June 16th, 2008 @ 11:28 AM

Filed under: Piercing

Dear BME,

I have recently been diagnosed with a gut disease called ulcerative colitis (similar to Crohn’s disease), and I’m currently in recovery. Though this is a chronic disease where my body attacks my colon and gets inflamed, it can be suppressed (not cured) with medicine. Now when I recover I will have to keep taking some form of medicine (probably anti-inflammatory agents such as mesalazine, possibly others, I’m going to confer with my doctor), and I would like to know; what sort of medicine has an effect on the aftercare and healing of a piercing? I would really like to get pierced someday but I want to know if my body isn’t going to protest because of what I’m dealing with here.

Cheers in advance,


My understanding of Crohns disease is that it is effectively managed with immuno-supressants, which puts the person at a greater risk of infection. I also know that there are some instances whereby doctors will prescribe a prophylactic course of antibiotics for those suffering weakened immune systems, usually before surgery or dentistry. It is worth discussing this at length with your specialist. Unfortunately, the treatment for your condition will increase the risk factor associated with getting pierced and healing a piercing. I would, however, be interested to hear what your specialist has to say on the subject.

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Piercing Yourself

Sunday June 15th, 2008 @ 11:22 PM

Filed under: Navel

I have wanted my Navel pierced for a while, but my parents will not let me. I went out and bought a 14g hollow needle and a ring to fit. I want to do the piercing myself or with the help of friends, but I was told I need a clamp or the bleeding would be really bad. Could I possibly get a step-by-step walk through of how to properly do it yourself? (I will not go to a parlor, so I don’t want any of that.) Thank you.

I can’t speak for the other ASKBME volunteers, but I’ll say you’ll be hard pressed to find anyone who calls themselves professional who’s willing to do a step by step walk through on a piercing, particularly in a public forum on someone who refuses to go to a professional.

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Retainer for nipple piercing

Sunday June 15th, 2008 @ 7:13 AM

Filed under: Nipple

Can you use a retainer for a nipple piercing while it’s still healing?

I was just wondering. The reason I ask is that I may well be going on a long, intercontinental flight soon. I’m worried about metal detectors at airports and while I am well aware it’s a question that’s been asked zillions of times and that the consensus seems to be “no, they won’t go off”, I’m worried there will always be one that will. Being the generally shy person I am I’d rather people didn’t find out about my “secret” i.e. piercing (I have no other piercings).

Thank you.

Too keep those “secrets” a secret from airport security I would suggest if you absolutely want to wear something non-metallic, then to find a studio that sells Pyrex Glass jewelry. You can usually find an assortment in retainer type jewelry.

The pyrex jewlery can be autoclaved/sterilized and used in fresh piercings. But you definitely will not want to be constantly changing in between jewelry while it’s still healing. After you get the pyrex in you’ll either want to keep that in or immediately have them changed when you touch down to the steel jewelry and leave those in until they are completely healed. As the more you switch between the two, the more irritation can occur in piercings that are still healing.

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Posted by Warren Hiller | Permalink | 3 Comments

Biking with a pussy piercing

Saturday June 14th, 2008 @ 11:30 AM

Filed under: Female Genital

Hey guys!

So, I’m dying to get a vaginal piercing. My (probably futile) question is this: I ride my bike to work and pretty much all around town. I’m sure riding a bike would interfere with the healing of most genital piercings but are there any that wouldn’t be affected? My first choice is a triangle and then probably a VCH but something tells me those would be impossible to heal with as much bike riding as I do. (and yes, I need to ride my bike…don’t have a car!)

Logic dictates that getting a genital piercing and riding a bike during the healing time is not a good idea. However, speaking from my own experience I have managed to successully heal both inner labia and VCH piercings whilst being an active cyclist. Both piercings are relatively easy to heal at the best of times. Adjusting your posture on the bike so that the saddle doesn’t cause pressure on the piercings is a must. So opt for something that is simple to heal like a VCH if you don’t want to take a hiatus from cycling. Alternatively, use public transport!

As a bone of contention, neither of the piercings you mentioned are vaginal piercings. The vagina is only a part of the vulva which is the general term for the external female genitalia.

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mensuration - lowered pain threshold?

Saturday June 14th, 2008 @ 8:52 AM

Filed under: Tattoos

I’m getting a chest piece done in 2 days time.. =)

but, i have just started mensuration now. I heard that we girls will have lower pain treshold during this period. Is this true? If so, i will postpone the tattoo appointment~

It is indeed true. It is down to the presence of prostaglandins which play a part in the sloughing off of the womb lining. Unfortunately for us, prostaglandins make the nociceptors (pain receptors) in the brain more sensitive. As a point of interest, if you suffer from bad period pains you will be more sensitive to pain around this time in general, as the worse the cramps, the higher the level of prostaglandins.

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