An ex self harmer wants to suspend?

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Monday May 14th, 2012 @ 6:47 AM

Filed under: Suspension


Now I know probably none of you are qualified to comment on self harm it’s self but I am have recently considered going for a suspension again after a failed attempt a couple of years back when life wasn’t so grand.

However, I now have 2 years 4 months free from self harm but my arms/legs are scarred from it, how would you say is best to approach a suspension team about the subject as I’d like to reassure them that suspending for me is not about self harm at all.

Could you recommend me a suspension team in the UK (the person I originally suspended with no longer does them)

Thanks guys and girls!

The best way to approach a team with this issue is also the most obvious. Just be upfront and honest. I don’t see any issue with suspending someone who used to self harm that would prevent a suspension. Perhaps there maybe some scar tissue that would affect hook placement but any professional suspension team will have no problem working around those scars and no bias against you due to your past.

As for who to suspend with. In the UK, I’d say to reach out to Matt Kirk ([email protected]) or to reach out to constant elevation ([email protected]). If neither of them work for you then you can always try looking for a team on the “groups” page of

And congratulations on finding more constructive ways to save yourself. :)

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3 Responses to “An ex self harmer wants to suspend?”

  1. Just a heads up about Constant Elevation - I’ve suspended with them a few times and they’re awesome however they’re currently on an indefinite hiatus.
    Tam (who had previously worked with them) will be starting his own li’l group soon enough. Sadly I have no more details as of yet.

    Mike on May 18th, 2012 at 5:35 am
  2. Your info is slightly incorrect. Constant Elevation is currently on a small break but are expected to completely be back in the swing of things by July, which is really only like a month and a half away.

    One thing people may or may not realize is that suspension artists dont do this as a career or a job. We devote our blood, sweat and tears because this is what we love to do. What that also means is that on top of suspensions, we also have to juggle a career that pays the bills.

    So sometimes between work, family, life and suspensions people get stressed and need to take a small break to center themselves again.

    This works out for everyone as they get their life settled down and the suspendee gets a much calmer coach through their experience.

    cere on May 18th, 2012 at 12:44 pm
  3. Ooooh that’s awesome news.
    Last I heard from Tam was that Ben had no current plans to do anything soon (but then this was a couple of weeks ago).
    Thanks for the heads up Cere.

    To the original poster - I’d definitely go with C.E, awesome guys, great atmosphere and all together a good day!


    Mike on May 19th, 2012 at 4:46 am

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